I tried. I really did. I did my best to still stay on top of child-rearing, maintain a healthy relationship and keeping up with friends and family while also holding down a job. Despite my best efforts, I’ve come to the realization that I’m kind of a flake.
I was hanging out with a friend recently, and we were catching up on what was going on in each other’s lives. I talked about what was going well, but I soon began to discuss what wasn’t. I whined about how hard being a mom is and how I have too much to do and not enough time. I went on and on about it, and she stopped me and said, “I need you to show more gratitude."
Recently, I have embarked on a quest to simplify my life. I started with spring cleaning and I have felt the fog of stress and overwhelm subside a bit. However, I still feel like I have too many things on my plate and my very mobile almost toddler has needed much more attention. That means there’s less time for everything else.
I’m sure there isn’t a parent alive who doesn’t feel the guilt of not spending enough time with their kids. I don’t want to speak for everyone, but I know that i am always reminded that work can wait, this precious time goes fast and that I should enjoy it. Can you relate?
The “b” word was once a huge part of my vocabulary.
“I can’t make it to lunch, I’m busy."
“I’m sooooo busy, there’s no way I can meet up after work."
“Sorry I can’t make it to the gym, I can’t believe how busy I am today!"
As much a I don’t want to admit it, I’m a smartphone addict. Like many moms, I have to maximize my free time as much as possible and my phone allows me to do that. Besides making phone calls and sending texts, I write blog posts, respond to emails, pay bills and everything else with my handheld device. It’s so much easier than having to pull out my laptop or sit at my desktop computer.
This was my first Christmas as a mother and I must admit, it felt a little weird. I’ve always taken great pride in my gift giving abilities. You know, being able to know exactly what my loved ones want and waiting to see their excited faces as they opened their presents.
I had lofty aspirations to have the most productive Thanksgiving holiday ever. While I wouldn’t trade all the family, friends, fun and food from the last few days, I’m currently spending my Sunday evening picking up the slack from all the work I didn’t get to.
Mommying is constant. There’s no way around it. Even when you’re not actively with your kids, you’re thinking about them, worrying about them, planning for them… you get it, you’re living it!
We have to be whole to be able to give to others
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