As the old saying goes, “It takes a village to raise a child." I can think of no truer words since I’ve become a mom. It also takes a village to throw a 1-year-old’s birthday party (in my case).
The isolation of being a new mom was something I was ill prepared for. My fiancé travels often for work and only had about 5 days of paternity leave. My mom was only able to take a week of vacation time to help me out. A steady stream of visitors soon turned into a trickle. I was sleep deprived, frustrated and lonely. I needed to make some friends, but it wasn’t going to be easy.
As a mom, it can be extremely difficult to let go. However, one thing is inevitable—one day you’re going to have to let that baby bird leave the nest. One great way to give your kids greater independence and enrich their lives while keeping them close to home is allowing them to participate in a day camp.
Do you share your parenting experiences on social media? There’s a word for that, it’s called “sharenting”. I use sharenting to keep friends and family across the country and even the world updated on my daughter’s growth and milestones. Sharenting helped me keep sane when I needed advice or needed to vent as I was transitioning into motherhood.
I have spent pretty much every moment of my daughter’s life with her since she made her debut a little over 10 months ago. Outside of the few afternoons and evenings with her dad and grandma, we’ve been joined at the hip. After almost a year of trying to be supermom, something has become crystal clear. It’s not her, it’s me—but we need to have some time apart. I need to find a babysitter.
I knew this day would come. It wasn't a matter of if, but when. It was my first time getting sick as mom. Really sick. A sinus infection with a side of bronchitis, to be exact. To make matters worse, the baby girl was sick too. A high fever, congestion, runny nose, the whole nine yards. And the cherry on top, her dad was out of town on a business trip.
The “b” word was once a huge part of my vocabulary.
“I can’t make it to lunch, I’m busy."
“I’m sooooo busy, there’s no way I can meet up after work."
“Sorry I can’t make it to the gym, I can’t believe how busy I am today!"
This was my first Christmas as a mother and I must admit, it felt a little weird. I’ve always taken great pride in my gift giving abilities. You know, being able to know exactly what my loved ones want and waiting to see their excited faces as they opened their presents.
Another year is about to come to a close and many of us are left wondering where the time has gone. Every year I’m left wondering why I didn’t accomplish more. The answer may not be the same for everyone, but in my case, I know that I have to create measurable goals.